How Can Someone Say "Having Children Is Out Of Fashion These Days?" No way!

Welcome to my blog once more ! My name is Mabi Azefor Fominyen and I hope that you are doing very well! I came across something this morning and I was a bit puzzled so I thought of sharing it with you and to get your thoughts as well. I was checking the News Online this morning, trying to catch up with current affairs and some world events when I stumbled on an article where someone was saying that “having children is a bit out of fashion these days” . I thought for a minute and I said to myself……..is this for real? I immediately imagined what that statement would mean for some people who are currently trying to get children by all means. I am so blessed that I have children of my own and I love them to the moon and back ! That notwithstanding , a few thoughts and questions came to my mind ! Why do we have so many people in the world, trying to give out “lessons” to others instead of letting people make informed choices and decisions which best suit their needs, wants, realities, dreams , desires and aspirations? Generally, I tend to be very careful when I come across information online and perhaps I dare suggest that; you might also need to watch-out what you consume online as content. Sometimes there's just so much happening out there and people might have the tendency of projecting their personal choices as “the ultimate solution” rather than mere suggestions! Some information could be very helpful while others could be really toxic. We have to know how to decipher and make sense of the good and determine how much information we take into consideration. At times opinions have been communicated as though they were facts thus creating nuances and doubts on the minds of some people especially young people and children. In Africa (where I come from), children are cherished and loved by many. These precious human beings come into world with many cultural norms, traditional beliefs, values and significance attached to their birth and their entire existence. As such, growing up, many people look forward to when they will become adults, get married and /or have children of their own. Imagine a young girl/young man from Africa therefore where having a child means a lot to individuals, families and communities; reading through an article where someone vehemently states that “having children these days is out of fashion” without actually providing enough context nor giving sufficient reasons to back that information….this might sound a little awkward to that young girl or man from some parts of Africa As a mom and someone in the field of communication, I would encourage people to really have a good sense of discernment with regards to what they read online. In my opinion, this might determine how such information is processed and how it might impact someone’s decision. Yes, there is an abundance of information online thus making it easier for people to learn and increase their knowledge ! A plethora of opinions, write ups, news articles, channels, conversations and interviews to name but these. On a daily basis a wealth of information is displayed online! However, it is also vital to cross-check some of the information put out there, remember your needs and wants as an individual and avoid getting too excited by what you read or hear on social media . Pick up what is relevant and helpful , leave out the junk ! Thank you and please feel free to join the conversation in the comment section !

Setting Healthy Boundaries by Mabi Azefor Fominyen

Lately, I have been reflecting on how to set healthy boundaries in life . How would you know when it is time to set boundaries? Take a look at this article here. Here is another helpful piece I came across with regards to setting boundaries. My reflections and the search for more information on this subject further led me to this article here. I found it quite interesting and useful so I thought of sharing it. When it comes to setting boundaries , I have learnt that one can never really please everyone and that it is alright to say NO at times. Take a look at these hints, they might inspire you, if you are looking for ways of setting boundaries. If you are wondering how to better enforce your boundaries once you set them, then take a look at these tips here.How about this one right here! A beautiful reminder that setting boundaries means, caring for one's self! After reading extensively about this topic, it might be safe to say that defining personal boundaries , actually requires a good understanding of what boundaries are . Boundaries might include ; personal, sexual, emotional, generosity,pyhsical, friendship and relationships in general. Take a quick look at this . Please feel free to share your thoughts, ideas, opinions, experiences and best practices about setting boundaries . Let us continue the conversation here on this blog #Mabi's World! Thank you so much in advance! BOUNDARIES ARE NECESSARY! THEY ARE HEALTHY! I also came across this video about setting boundaries and I thought it was worth sharing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6CJtIk457g

Spring , creativity and design hints by Mabi Azefor Fominyen!

I stumbled on this blog Demabs Boutique which I created a while back in order to showcase some of my outdoor decor ideas, crafts and designs. The article about the throw pillows  once more caught me attention. Click on this link here to see more. 

Think of what happens to your living room for example whenever you change your throw pillows or cushions! As the seasons change , I have noticed that people like adding extra touches  to their home decor . 

From my experience , pillows have a way of adding some kind of spice to one's home decor.They sometimes give a completely different look to an entire space be it in the living room, the corridor or the bedroom.  As you all know , spring comes with the beautiful flowers,  bright colours, new perspectives and ofcourse it is also a geat time to get creative . So let's get creative!  Bring in  some flowers, brightness, colourful pillow covers and cushions into our homes and yards.

 Enjoy the spring season !

Meanwhile you can read through this aricle below , courtesy of JANE AT HOME , for more ideas and 2023 home decor trends.

 https://jane-athome.com/home-decorating-trends/